One of the biggest tasks for teenagers is searching for identity. Young people are busy working out who they are and where they fit in the world. This search can be influenced by gender, peer group, cultural background and family expectations.
Some teens may fly through this without a hitch, but some may struggle to find their identity.This is perfectly normal!
Cast your mind back to when you were a teen, think of the fashion phases you went through.
I vividly remember thinking the height of sophistication was my pink duffle coat and thick black eyeliner. My mum however, remembers my numerous trips to the toilet on our outings, not to use it but to check on my hair!
It can be difficult to get your head around their changing images, try not to make a big deal of it (unless of course, it is way out of hand and unsafe). Let them know you understand it is a difficult and potentially confusing time for them and you are there unconditionally!
Talk to them about your time as a teen. Although, it can be easy to base your judgements around your experiences, remember they are not you and will experience it in their own way. Share with other parents – you are not in this journey alone!
ReachOut Parents Coaching is for any Australian parent with teenagers aged between 12–18 years of age with access to a phone and computer.